Friday, August 31, 2007

Love and Respect, for the Ladies

He must love her, she must respect him, whether or not he or she is deserving of that love or respect. It figures that the hardest thing to show to your spouse is the very thing that God demands. Women easily and naturally love with abandon, and men good naturedly extend respect to their fellow man. How hard it is for a woman to respect her husband's God-given authority or for the man to love his wife as Christ loved the church!

It is the age-old struggle. Women consciously or subconsciously fighting their husbands for control in the marriage... Men struggling to step up to the plate and lead... Women not being satisfied with the attempts men make to help out around the house...nagging them to do it better, faster or differently altogether...

I think it is even harder to biblically submit to our husbands in this day and age when most women are working 40 plus hour weeks along side their husbands and then they have the house to come home to (and potential other responsibilities outside the home)! Men who have grown up in a home where their mom has done all the housework may decidely refrain from engaging in household chores leaving these duties to their working wives... and this is a source of friction in many a marriage.

What are ways that you have addressed this in your marriage? How do you communicate with your husband about who pays the bills? How do you divy up the chores? How have you set up your budget? Any advice?

1 comment:

  1. Love the new look of your blog!

    One of my least favorite parts of the day is right after dinner. The kids need cleaning up, the table needs cleaning up, and it feels like 1 1/2 hours of rush before kiddy bedtime. But, Jeff always says to me, "Do you want to clean the kids or the table?" We just split what needs to be done!

    We still argue about the laundry. Because, I feel, if you're going to bring a basket of laundry upstairs, you should fold it! Jeff feels it's not his job, and that he's being helpful just by bringing up the basket. We've been arguing about this for four years. I'm hoping by our silver anniversary it will be resolved. :)

    Advice? Pray constantly. Remember the grace God shows you, and try to show that grace to your spouse. Remember that you're on the same side, and that you probably have the same goals for you family.

    Love you!

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